ms Ptk
hi for starters, I am so sorry you find yourself in such a situation with your b/f and I hope and pray he recovers. It is so very hard when you find yourself so alone and having to take on responsibilities that you hope and never dreamed of having to have to have.
After reading your post the words you typed seemed all too familiar to me about ruining peoples funtime agenda and just trying to get a common sense answer to questions that have life changing effects on the person posting them only to be given a lighthearted brush off when all we wanted was help.
Even though I dont have BPD I have a few friends that have and so over the years have had to educate myself not only on my issues but of my friends as well so I am one whom doesnt need the funtime attitude of others as well. This forum is meant to be for support and a place were sharing is meant to help us grow and survive ( sometimes more then we think )

Anyhow I just hope this lets you know that you are not alone and there is help out here .