i am pretty sure things are falling apart anyway, but falling in love with his friend caused other emotional trauma. i'm not around the other guy, and we are very much trying to just be friends. my husband and i are just getting into more and more arguments about everything. just the other night he made up a lie (or told me a horrible truth and pretended it was a lie) that he had lived with the woman he had cheated on me with when we were first dating several years later and helped her through her pregnancy as her bf even though the baby daddy was in the picture. this would have been over the year we were separated if it were true, though he made it seem like it was during a time we were living together in a different state. he's been a bad liar in the past, but even with me standing there shocked and hurt and confused he just kept telling the story to our friends. this feels like the last straw. i asked him why he couldn't have used a different example and he said that this was the one they would believe and he didnt want to bring my bipolar (or his) into the conversation. my friend knows all about my issues, and his.. i said she talked to me more about it than he does (which is true) he got mad and we slept in different rooms. i dreamed of divorcing him. i woke up still upset and thinking about ending things. im still soo mad about the whole thing. it doesn't help i keep thinking about someone else either.