I guess everyone is different at being able to "read" the intent in some posts/threads. Since we have no way of "seeing" body language/facial expressions, sometimes words can be hard to figure out. Take me for instance, I'm usually pretty good at being able to read and know what the intent is in most posts, but every now and again, I do get it wrong and sometimes it's because I don't know the poster well, sometimes it's because I'm not in the place where it's easy to figure it all out (I might be having difficulties as well and misconstrue something). So really, it can happen to anyone at any given time.

You know, PC is not different than any other community on earth. There are always like minded folks that get together. There are always times when some folks don't get along with others. Ounce for ounce though, I believe that PC has been and will continue to be one of the safest and most supportive communities you'll ever find.

It truly is incumbent upon the newcomer(s) to find their own niche so to speak, to find their way around the forums, read and learn about others and post supportively to others or ask for support for themselves. We all need to remember that not everyone agrees with everyone and sometimes a members' post may be in disagreement with us, but, if said respectfully and with care, it is not against guidelines. We cannot expect all responses to us to be along our own personal lines of thinking. When I first came to PC, I had to do the same thing....I had to find my niche. Hard to believe I was so shy and scared back then.....nothing like I am now

If and when you find a post that you think is against guidelines, the best thing you can do is to report the post by using the little report post icon on the left under the name of the member and let the mod/admin team look at it and see if it needs editing. Don't respond to the post, no matter how angry you are because you may end up being the problem and not the solution. Problems with another member????......pm them and try to work it out privately. Private issues should not be out on the forums, and discussing pm's publicly is another no-no. As always, the team is here to help and support as best we can if we are needed.

If you haven't had a chance to read our Community Guidelines, here is the link - http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=3643

Okay, I think I got away from myself on this post....sorry about that LOL.

I'm glad you are here (((((((((((( PAYNE1 )))))))))))))))