However, it is not consistent with PC Forums policies to attempt to adversely influence some members' perception of and behavior towards other members.

Ahhh, yet here is the rub... I never attempted to do such a thing. What I did was attempt to participate in a support forum, which I have no experience with doing save the 100 posts that I have made here. I am learning for the first time how to utilize non-verbal communication in an emotionally charged situation with a lot of people that have their own set of issues and history, resulting in a different perception for each person. Take away the verbal inflections, facial expressions, tone of voice, body language; add in the fact that I am new here and know very few of you well enough to let my guard down enough to even be humorous lest I dare offend someone; and then, maybe, you might understand how I misunderstood the original intent of the thread. The whole experience left me wanting just to delete my posts, my account and get rid of the danged computer, yet too much is riding on this...
it has come to the point where I have to change or die...
I decided to change and its a daily uphill battle, and learning to share myself with others is part of the process. Am I flailing? Absolutely. Do I regret every post I make. You are darned right I do! Am I squirming in discomfort. You betcha! I am sitting here in this crap, suffering silently as always, trying to learn to have the courage to reveal myself. I am going to keep writing, keep posting, keep failing and keep doing that which is uncomfortable until I learn to do it well. Thank you for this post. It really does help to have critics who care enough about you to let you know you are doing something badly. What I want you to understand though is that this whole issue resulted from someone with over 4 years of posts, over 6000 posts, not having the patience to explain the errors of my ways to me as you have. Instead, she chose to humiliate me publicly for trying my best, falling flat on my face and told me to start my own thread if I wanted "support" saying this to someone with a month an 100? Where is the patience? The compassion? The understanding? The support? I am a baby learning to walk and I keep falling but don't scold me for trying! I NEVER at any time, attempted to be duplicitous and that is why I withheld her name rather than posting it in big red letters as my hurt was telling me to.
Please be patient with me. I have no bad intentions at all. I am here because I need to be here but there is also a learning curve that comes along with abandoning old defense mechanisms and having the strength and courage to let someone in.

"Also, it is not consistent with PC Forums policies to quote out of context and without the author's permission any statement made by another member in another thread or anywhere else."

I was VERY angry at being publicly humiliated in HUGE RED LETTERS rather than having someone politely explain this as you have here or even with more sensitivity, privately in a message. I respond very well to constructive criticism and direction without resentment, I even appreciate others who make the effort to redirect my efforts. However, I do not do well with continual public debasement. I told her off for doing so and was informed by another senior member that I wasn't being supportive.
I replied that I was not enjoying a supportive experience.
The 'lady' with the huge red letters (who respond identically to not just one, but two of my posts) replied that this was her thread, if I wanted support to start my own thread. That is exactly what I did. I withheld her name as I was just trying to explain the angst fully without revealing her identity. I have since been edited by a moderator, she privately messaged me and we have communicated in regards to the frustrations that both parties felt.

Thank you very much for having the patience and caring enough to explain the ways of this world to me. This was all a result of my misunderstanding the original intent of the post and attempting to participate. Yet, I do not think that warrants the public whipping I took...

Caution! Work in progress here!!!
Colleen