Hey everyone, I'm a newbie, and I'm simply just here for some help.

This is a bit of a complicated and long story, but THANKS A MILLION in advance to whoever reads it and gives input.

My fiancee and I (her name is Shannon) have been together for a year now. We are DEEPLY in love, and have never felt more complete and sure of anything in our lives. We trust each other 100%. It really has been the perfect relationship. BUT!!!!! recently something happened that's got my world upside down.

The other night, while sitting on the couch together and watching some T.V., Shannon looked at me and out of nowhere, told me she had a very important question. Willingly I told her to ask. She then proceeded to ask me if I was ever "involved" in any way with a girl named Tanya. Not wanting to lie to her, I immediately responded that she had performed oral on me once, over two years ago. (A year before I even met Shannon). Immediately she got very upset and became very flighty. She just looked at me and said "that wasn't the answer I was hoping for." I got a bit angry immediately seeing how ridiculous the situation was and what she was proclaiming to me. But it turns out, she isn't kidding.

Now, to understand why this "Tanya" character means anything. Wayyy back in the day when Shannon was younger, she was dating her first boyfriend, and was blindsided one day finding out that her BEST friend was sleeping with her boyfriend, for 6 MONTHS! Shannon was hurt, but eventually forgave her boyfriend and hooked back up with him. A few months later, Shannon was hurt AGAIN by the SAME BOYFRIEND after finding out that he had cheated on her with anywhere from 8 to 12 other women. Shannon was smart enough to leave him for good after that, but she became even more hurt when she realized that all of her friends knew about it, but nobody bothered to say anything to her. So she realized they weren't friends at all. She then fell into a very independent and alone mindset where she only hung out with a few very close friends, and never socialized with anybody from her previous group of friends that hid the truth from her. Tanya, was part of that group of friends. That's all she was. Just a part of that group of people, and Shannon hated her for it.

I knew Tanya from back in high school in the band. (Shannon and I had the same high school, but never knew each other.) Then a year or so after I had graduated, this "event" happened with Tanya (I was intoxicated as well, not that that's an excuse) and we never spoke again.

What brought the question on supposedly, is Shannon had a dream that Tanya was conducting sexual things with me. So she then decided to see if her dream was just a dream, or if there was some truth to it.

Now she wants time apart. At first she wanted to leave me, but after thinking about of it for a day, she tells me that she wants to rent a house somewhere in our town, and live in her own place, but to not break up. Basically she wants to go back to when we were just dating. She thinks that shes to dependent on me, and little things like my relations with someone over two years ago are such a big deal to her because of it. So she wants to go move to her own place and be independent again, but still be together.

She also claims that she cant view me sexually anymore because if she did all she will think about is her dream with me and Tanya. I agreed to do the whole move on her own thing, as long as she went to therapy.

I've been thinking shes needed therapy for a while. My thoughts about therapy for her started when after she had a slight battle with a very rare skin disorder, the medication the doctors gave her made her put on weight. Not a terrible amount, but shes always been a thin woman and has always been proud of it. Say around 105lbs, and now she's at 135lbs. She's been trying really hard to run and bike and swim and walk and go to the gym, but she isn't loosing any weight. And I know that thats tearing at her, no matter how much I tell her I think she still looks gorgeous. So naturally she's been rapidly decreasing the amount of sex together, and is starting to say VERY negative things in regards to "life" in general.

So to conclude, I know there is something mentally blocking or pulling at her, and its obviously affecting her life now. I have no experience with therapy, and I have no clue what kind of therapist she would need to see. Basically I'm hoping someone can steer me in the right path here to get help for her. Shannon promised me over and over again that she cant stand the thought of being without me, but when I am around she doesnt think its fair for me because all she's thinking about is her dream. So she says shes just "Meant to be alone". She feels like she cant escape that group of people from her past that she keeps trying to get away from.

Help? Anyone? I don't want to just leave her to fall into depression, I love her too much. Thanks again for any help given.

~Michael