My ex was like that for the ten years we were together when he was depressed he used to expect me to talk him out of it but at the same time look for anything I said or did to have a go at me. It was like treading on eggshell all the time. When we broke up (I finished it) One day when he visited I was in a really bad way and told him how awful I was feeling and the worry about my parents and he turned round and told me that in all the years we were together he doesn't remember me ever being depressed or remember me crying. But what really got me was as I was crying he just sat there and from where I was he didnt realise I could see his reflection in the mirror and I could see he was smiking he had this smile on his face like he was happy to see me so down. Please is you can get help for youself