john: I do understand where you're coming from, and also your comment about honest responses. I think the question you asked, "how could you leave him...", while it clearly reflects your opinion, it can come across as judging someone and finding them lacking. It's difficult for all of us to cope, and I admire your wife for sticking it out. I'm assuming your wife doesn't have a mental illness? It becomes a different situation when you have someone struggling with mental illness trying to take care of someone with a mental illness. I would only ask that you try to understand how difficult that can be.

I would also ask that you take time to think through your anger and not condemn this site on facebook. There are many people who don't have someone like your wife to be there for them; there are many people who to feel like there is no hope, and for them, this could be their only chance.

Peace be with you, friend