I would talk to your boyfriend about this problem and the two of you decide how to address just this one problem! Maybe you will decide, when you get unreasonably angry and can't/won't stop, that your boyfriend will announce a time out and both of you agree, ahead of time, you'll stop the argument and separate to different rooms or activities; just "stop" and do something else because you're not being productive.

I know when I get frustrated because my husband is being dense that he'll feel I am attacking him too much or am too "loud" and will state that, that he cannot discuss "it" (whatever we're talking about) anymore IF I continue as I am being at that moment. That helps me stop, lower my voice and think for a minute how to state what I'm trying to get across in a way that even he can understand. If he still doesn't get it, then more discussion/argument isn't going to help right then! At that point, I "leave" and think about how I am going to deal with whatever "my" side is.

Arguments are about me wanting one thing and you wanting another. There's nothing wrong with that. If we cannot agree so we both understand and move forward together, there's no reason that I can't move forward with what I want by myself!

However, if one does not feel that is "possible" then one has to look and see if one isn't trying to change the other person. That can never work long-term and will always be disappointing.

My husband and I have been discussing money and our lifestyle/goals for the last week or two and it has been "interesting" At the moment, I'm working on some of "my" side by myself. It's not as much "fun" and I'd love companionship overall in my lifestyle/dreams but if that's not wholly possible, it is my life and I can still effect my own lifestyle; as a matter of fact, I believe I have a sacred opportunity and duty to do that.