I am new here and I apologize if I am posting something that has already been posted...

My girlfriend and soon to be fiance has BP. I have never been in a relationship with someone who has a mental illness, so I am trying to learn as much as I can on how to be the best partner I can be. I have a two sided question to ask...

1. From the point of view of the person with BP, what is the most important (or even top 3) characteristic in your partner that lets you know that you are loved, that they will always be there, and helps you to overall deal with BP?

2. From the point of view of the partner who DOES NOT have BP, what do you find is the most important (or top 3) characteristic in yourself, that helps you be a supportive and loving partner, and helps you deal with your partners BP?

I hope that I worded that correctly and that it is easily understandable and I look forward to any and all responses. As I said, I am here to learn and to be the best partner I can be... Thank you.