Thunderbear, would it be constructive to invite the "helper" in and have a talk wither her at YOUR initiative about this, not the school's? Many times, kids with ADHD or the autism spectrum get times, sequences or such screwed up, or just tell some real doozies, so it is always good to get together with the social worker and air that fact first. We work a lot with the Swedish social services at my job, and believe me, folks have a lot of the same oncerns no matter where they live. No one like the authorities marching in. Especially not in these little towns where everyone talks, almost everyone is related to everyone, and half the people work at the same place. One over-eager, well-meaning socialworker can get tongues wagging, and people can let thir imaginations take over.
The issue with the meds kind of bugs me. Do they assume someone is abusing drugs in your family?
Huggs dear. I really don't eny the mess of a town you're in.