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Old Sep 20, 2010, 02:39 PM
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Feeling very depressed. Home comp on last legs. Replacement with software very expensive. So afraid of being cut off from my support team I put new one on card. Can't bring myself to open it. Scared about being able to make payments. Trying to decide if I should just take it back. Angry with self about getting so depressed about being afraid of being offline. Disappointed with myself about not being able to effectively comfort myself through distress. My Significant Other feels like he is useless because he can't make me feel better. I feel guilty about that too.
Hi PitchBlack, welcome to the BP crowd. Would like to toss in some practical suggestions that might help alleviate your depression and guilt some. First, have you had someone look at your computer? I have a neighbor who works out of his home and fixes them pretty cheap. Or even find a rebuilt one - the same kind of people usually have them for sale. You might even be able to rent one for a while. Then you will know if you should take the new one back. You say you're "afraid to open it." Do you mean the new computer or your credit card bill? If it's your credit card bill, bite the bullet and open it. It's not going to go away even if you ignore it. Try to look at it in terms of affordability, and if you really can't afford it, decide if it's worth the stress to have a new computer.

And for your significant other, try to find something he can do to help. I'm currently unemployed because of a narrow-minded employer, and my husband is frustrated because he can't snap his fingers and make a job magically appear and because he not only can't fix my phases (depression in particular), he tends to attribute it to stress in our relationship. So I try to think of things he can do to help. Order a pizza when I can't bring myself to cook, wash my car, exercise the dogs, and he takes it upon himself to help out with the housework (when he's not frustrated that he can't "fix" me ). Sorry this is so long, and hope it helps!
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