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Originally Posted by Perna
MUE, because someone else calls you harsh, I don't care if it's your T, does not make you harsh! Rarely is the expression of anger, "pretty". I reread all your posts about the blowup and I am really proud of you that you didn't do name calling or degenerate into the "snarling" person you claim you were; I think your feelings are reflecting more your take on what the other people seemed to be doing. I think, were I in your place, I would go to group, just to see what happened! I wouldn't be able to "stop" in the middle of the story 
That the other girl was hurt, could indicate you touched a nerve, something she has been told before but hasn't been able to address yet. I think it is natural that other people respond to people who appear to be the weaker/more hurt? You very clearly stated your point of view and that's wonderful! Yes, when you become perfect  it will sound better, and the guy who was "disappointed" in you, that's how he feels and is about him, not about you! |
Thanks, Perna....but I really do believe I was harsh. I was yelling, and it really wasn't appropriate at all. When I posted on the blog, I apologized to her, telling her that she didn't deserve to be treated that way by me. I'm being honest with that...but am still angry because she still has not taken any ownership for her part - and her sarcasm really gets under my skin. But that's my stuff too, kwim?
I'm afraid that the group members will continue to coddle this woman, and I'll just become even more angry. Or, they will start bashing me, etc. I've been in group with these people for almost 2 years - with the exception of this woman who is rather new - and I have a pretty good sense of what they feel towards me at the moment.
Now, if I felt stronger, I would face it. But right now, I don't feel strong enough. I have too much other stuff working against me....