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Originally Posted by sunrise
 MUE, it sounds like you're too hurt to go to group this week. That's OK. The feelings are too raw. Sometimes we need a little distance. Maybe another week will provide you with that. And the session with your T will help too.
MUE, when you were sharing with the group but before the woman piped up and tried to turn the attention to herself, were things going OK? Was the group reacting well to your sharing your struggles, offering support or ideas or empathy (or whatever good is supposed to happen)? This seems important to me, but the way you reacted to the woman has clouded over the experience you were having of sharing with the group. I think once you are past the issue of this woman and your reaction to her, it would be interesting to return to that. Do you feel like never sharing with the group again because of how they were reacting to you? Or because of the whole mess with this woman? If the former, what was going wrong? How were the members reacting that was not helpful?
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Thanks, sunrise....I appreciate your support.
Before the woman piped up, I got very little feedback from the group about what I was sharing. There was no depth to their responses...or there was just silence....it was so, unfulfilling. Even the new T posted his feelings on the blog about my disclosure...and encouraged others to post theirs....and NOTHING. This has been a gripe I've had for quite a while, so I'd feel like I'm beating a dead horse by raising it again.
I just feel like there's no reason at all for me to share my issues...because I really don't get much out of it, other than feeling vulnerable to a group of people who don't have anything to give back to me.
Wow, that sounds really cold, doesn't it? I know people will think - why are you still going to this group? I have learned an awful lot about myself and how I relate to others, which is where I've found the most value. But when it comes to sharing personal traumas, etc. - this group just does not seem to be a good fit for me.