rap,

this is a toughie. what helps here is to find common interest that allow for a "sharing" of the sides...one where both are interested and an co-exist to achieve, complete, etc. (i.e. crafts, singing, gardening, hiking, searching for rocks).

i've had alot of "sharing" recently by doing that. only you know what kinds of interests that both sides of you will find appealing. it's hard but they're there. you may have to get really creative. make sure you're alone, and can give "all" to this. go into it with the goal to be that this is a shared activity.

once it's achieved, it's easier to achieve. i'm working on allowing it as often as possible. i'm to the point that, when i have time, it's a much easier thing to accomplish as i've figured out some common interest or draws.

gl!

kd