If he really is that inexperienced then that explains a lot of it. When you are on the phone or texting or whatever...it's a lot easier to say things you wouldn't say to someones face...good or bad. Especially for someone who hasn't experienced a lot of affection.

I'm a pretty good example of this. I always saw my parents fighting and watched them go through a divorce and then my dad cheated on my step-mom and they divorced also. My family has NEVER been affectionate. I just recently (and I'm 23) started being able to say I love you to my own family. I couldn't look a guy in the eye and say I love you until recently either, even if I really did. And even now, my bf and I have been together for almost 2 years and I can't say "I love you" in front of my family to him. And he can't say it in front of his either because he was brought up the same way.

And it's hard for us to understand the pressure that is placed on a guy when it comes to sex. Women, we can do it whether we're into it or not and it's pretty easy to fake it. But a guy....if he is nervous or not into it....it shows.... And all it takes is one mess up for them to drive themselves crazy and beat themselves up over it. If he really does like you as much as he says then he probably just wants to make sure he is everything you expect of him. And even if he is in the mood, just being tired can make it......y'know. Or being distracted. I'm sure after 4 weeks of constant work he needed some time to unwind and compose himself.

About the spending the last night with you, that would upset me too. But maybe he sees you as secure enough that he doesn't have to worry about stuff like that. I can also understand wanting to see his sister and friend for a night.

One thing I want to say is I'm so glad that you're not overreacting and automatically jumping to conclusions. I see that you are not jealous or assuming anything and are pretty confident and sure of yourself. That is really awesome to see and will only make your relationship stronger. If you really need to get it off your chest then just be up front. Tell him exactly what is making you feel the way you are. If he is sincere and wants things to work he should be able to open up a little. If he gets defensive and seems angry about it, then it might be time to re-evaluate things. Good luck!