Mg71 I know how you feel about the other family not acknowledging you not just because of the cousin issue but my sons fathers family hasent acknowledged my son either. They know of him seen him and completely ignored him. So sorry you have to go through that too.
Babydoll. I am learning as well. I have decided not to go to the shower but I am going to send a small gift to the hostess to deliver it for me. I can't (without feeling bad) withhold a congrats for something so wonderful as a new baby. I"m a sap. Love babies. It will be small and pobably a little something fo alexis(big sister) other than that I feel that is all I need to do for me to feel better about it all. I won't continue to put myself out there but I think its the right thing to do for both of us. Perhaps like mg71 I will put a final note in the card worded in a calm and as nice a way as possible. I can be blunt and harzh at times but I try not. And I've been trying to let "bad" people slide off. Tough skin so to speak.
Thank you both for your responses you both are right it isn't trivial if it bothers. Just seems not as bad as others issues and I feel like I have no right to worry when it isn't as bad. I think I already knew what I should do but it helps to get it out. And at times I need a word from an outside perspective. Thank you