I really, really need other peoples' opinions here.

So my T's wife is the Big Boss at my company. We had one conversation about confidentiality when I found out about the conflict a month ago. He said he kept his work life and personal life separate and that's the only way he could function. And everything said in the office stayed in the office.

I have absolutely no proof, just a gut feeling, that he has told her I'm a client. Here's some of my reasoning:

-She doesn't come at me with work things like I would expect that she would.
-Relating to the above, she is very slow to engage if she comes looking for my boss or someone else in my office and no one is there but me. Like she doesn't say, "Symbiosis, is so-n-so around," but stands there quietly, avoidant. Remember, she is the Big Boss. She seems like an otherwise direct person.
-But she always uses my name when she speaks to me, as if she is very aware of who I am.
-I just ran into her in the break room. You know what it feels like? Like when someone who you like (or you know who likes you) runs into each other by accident. Think junior high or high school. I mean, that reaction of surprise/worry/awkwardness coming from her. I specifically took my time to fully experience her reaction to being alone with me. In a word, panicked. As the relatively new Big Boss, I would expect her to be engaging...unless she had extra information! She is a nice person, btw.

Obviously, there is no concrete evidence here. What am I supposed to do when I can't imagine the way he might disclose to me that he broke confidentiality. That's way too serious of an offense. So when I bring it up tomorrow, no matter how reassuring he is, I won't believe that he would tell me if he did so I won't be able to believe him.

Also, I don't want a new T. I want to keep him. I'm afraid if I get too unruly, he'll want to refer me out.

I have his email now. Do I email? Or do I hold onto it for tomorrow's session? It irks me that I have to pay to talk about this issue, frankly. Then again, I'm not big on giving him preparation time. I want to be able to discern if he is telling the truth by his reaction (as well as keeping my eye on his wife's reactions).

I'm sounding crazy, aren't I?