((madisgram)) - I'm sorry this is happening to you and your family. Since you said your son visits and communicates when his wife is on vacation - this means he loves you, isn't happy with the situation but feels controlled by his wife. For what ever reason she's the one who controls things - she's probably threatened him or something else. During those times, have you talked about this with your son about finding a solution? I think she's acting like a b---h and being extremely unfair. You have the right to see your son and your grandchildren.

It would be great if your son could find the strength to stand up to her but since she's the domineering one, this might not happen. If you invite your son with the kids - would he come? Would she come if you invite her? I just think it's so sad and frustrating to deprive you of seeing your family when you want to. You have my sympathy and I think you should see what your son says and see if you both can just tell her how it is and if she doesn't like it, then too bad.