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Originally Posted by Rhiannonsmoon
((((((((Belle))))))))
My heart aches for you Belle. I understand the pain and concerns you have, I know the terrible fear of abandonment as well as the pain of betrayal you have within. If he has never experienced it he just wouldn't know.
Maybe he was hurt by the way you said "this much". It wasn't a lot of love and that may have upset him a little. Then to hear that you are still afraid of being hurt he may think that you are holding back and that is stunting the relationship?
But I agree that you need to speak to someone and the T is the best person because he knows you and knows your history.
One thing I would suggest though is that when you have thoughts of Mark and you are going to sleep. Instantly replace them with thoughts of L and the fun and wonderful things you have done together since you first met. It will ground you into this new relationship and remind you that things are different,
Loving hugs,
Rhiannon
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Couldn't have said it better myself. The power of positive thinking. If you just let your mind wander, it will usually wind up the one place you don't want it to. So don't let it, when you start to wander, immediately think of L and all of the good. Picture his smile, how his eyes look lovingly at you, him holding you and whatever other images that you enjoy... The brain doesn't think in words or language it thinks in images, so picture all of the good images about L that you can and you will feel better and it will become your default thought instead of M and the things you don't want in your life....