Hello dear bridgie,

I don't think this is trivial. Things that cause us anxiety are not trivial. I can almost fall apart at times with the anxiety but no one knows because they don't feel it for themselves.

I do think though that she will be offended if you don't go to the shower. Maybe that is her way of reaching out to you to see if you will go and see if you are prepared to really bury the hatchet (that is a troubling analogy hmmm....). If someone else in your family is going maybe you could get a lift with them? and take a magic anti anxiety pill to help you through, that is what they are there for.

I just read your first post and from the beginning to the end it sounded like you only wanted to talk yourself out of it. We are here to support you and to let you know that we are here for you. How would you face any other situation that you simply could not escape? I know you can do it. But do you?

Loving hugs

Rhiannon