I did not have healthy anger modeled in my house,so I have begun journaling and anger therapy. There are still times when old anger comes up in a flood though. Just recently since it's a new fall season, a new Jewish year for me, and the beginning of football season. I am not a big sports fan and I am tolerant. Football reminds me that the news will only be 10 minutes long followed by 20 minutes of football. My ex loved football. Once when the Longhorns won the championships my ex cried real tears in my arms. I just don't get it. I thought it was a game. I thought it would be entertaining and fun. Another time I went to worship service with ex and family and I looked at that statue up front withthat guy with blood all over and I cried and my ex had to take me back to the water fountain and grill me over why I was crying. I felt bad for crying but that statue was sad. My ex and I just couldn't understand eachothers feelings, near the end, we gave up. Do not want it to happen again. What to look for?