I agree deeply with what findingmyself had to say.

This is difficult for you dear neri. I just think that people should have a clear idea of what you are going through and WHY you are going through it. Some people here seem to have the idea that he has done something wrong and he hasn't done anything wrong other than want you as a friend.

Those of us who know you are in love with him and cannot accept his friendship alone are really hoping that you do well and that you take care of yourself first.

This guy is NOT selfish and he never led you on in any way. So for others to blame him or look down on him is unfair. He loves you in the only way he can and that is as a dear friend. That isn't enough for you and so you are going through the stages of should I shouldn't I? That is natural and you recognise that which is really great.

Allow these feelings to run their course and see how you go. You know that we are here for you at any time day or night. You're doing well and no matter what, I am so proud of you my friend,

Much love and many hugs,

Rhiannon