Thank you all...lots of different perspectives and I appreciate that.

It is almost all about T not his wife. Really, it wouldn't matter that she knew by finding out by accident (but not T's carelessness I might add). It is the idea of respect. If he told her, he hasn't respected me as a client and I have gone out of my way to respect this situation. I mean, I have all sorts of information I wouldn't normally have but I am cognizant of his comfort level.

It just will suck if the way he's paid me back is by selling me out. And it troubles me that I will never know, unless by some miracle he comes out with it today in session. I find myself wanting him to say, "Yes I told her. Here's why and how..." more than anything because I can't imagine the way I might believe him that he hasn't told her.

Well, I'm nervous but in a few hours it'll be out there.