((((jaikhan))))

I agree strongly with what NF has said here. It is tempting as you said to have your head turned when you have had your heart broken. To have someone to turn to and hold you when you feel bad.

But this guy is a problem for you and he has never shown that he loves you.

When I was young I had a boyfriend, he was older than me and I wasn't prepared to give him sex. He accepted that and said that he loved me and respected me. He was my first love.

On my birthday he came to me to tell me he was getting married (at 17) because he had made a girl pregnant. I was devastated I just did not know where to put myself but I was broken.

I was best friends with his sister so it wasn't as if I wouldn't see him around. I have trusted only one man since and that is my dad. Sorry two I trust DJ though I don't 100% trust the relationship; I guess I never got over that first betrayal.

But what I'm saying is that having a heart broken makes one vulnerable to future relationships and when they break down it is as if the world has ended.

In truth we are strong and it is a matter of getting past the pain and relying on ourself rather than relying on something external like a relationship or a man to complete us.

I hope you don't go back there jai, you deserve better and if you hold out you will get it.

Take care, many hugs to you dear friend,

Rhiannon