Rohag,
it is possible. though i find it hard to do. especially when u want those people in your life. it's hard to accept that u can't change or be the catalist of change in others when u so badly want them around. but maybe that's why they are in our lives. to remind us of these things. it's almost like an addiction though. i liken it to that cuz i'm gonna try to quit smoking again. u just find it hard to go without sometimes and get relief from it/them so u try to reason with yourself and forget the bad and think only of the good. which is a good way to look at life, but not if it's something destructive in your life.

I really like your planting of good to overshadow the bad. it's a great metaphor and visual. cuz there will always be the bad. seeing as no one is perfect.

I really appreciate the replies. thank you both! xoxo