I am sorry I dont mean to sound harsh but its seems to me that both you and your partner are not coping at all. I seriously think youse two need to evaluate your situation between yourselves. Perhaps he is trying to tell you that he cant cope either but don't know how to come straight out and say it. It couldn't have been easy to up and leave and come here in the hopes of a better life and it sounds like neither of you are coping. What I can say and again I do not mean to cause you any more upset but if you are not already pregnant please think seriously whether its a good idea to try for a child as things are so stressful between you too already. If your situation is so dire financially and emotionally do you really want to bring a baby into it which would put even more strain on you emotionally and financially.