(((teebird37))) (thats a hug just so ya know) i very much understand where you are coming from. i never (so far) have had the courage to leave a similar situation. loving someone who is depressed can be very challenging especially when they block you out of their healing process/life. you may not like hearing this, but it may be better for you both in the long run to be apart. he is an adult and must make his own life decisions. when you can get out and focus on yourself instead of him or his illness you may find that life has more to offer you. it sounds shallow, but you need to look out for yourself. i married the guy, and now am getting divorced after almost 9 years of struggling with myself and him. maybe we got married to early. if we had been dating i may have been able to leave sooner. i have depression myself, so i kind of understand both sides. men seem to have a propensity to turn inward and isolate. it is nothing against those who care about them, just a safety mechanism. i asked my husband if when he withdraws does anything get better, his was response was no, it just goes away. As for your situation, i wish you the best and the strength to set out on your own to find what you need out of life.