Hi Ian, I am a hopeles romantic and have just held onto a relationship even thoughit made me ill.I met my ex and he became my world so much so I was willing to give up everything and everyone for him but he beat my heart black and blue. I wouldn't change thw days that we had though, when we were good we were really really good. Now my life is more stable but a little less colourful, now I guess I'm learning to love myself so when my world merges with my lover we have two worlds to share but also a place of own sanctury . I'm sure that would make a more healthy romance. I don't know if you'd agree, I always thought true romance meant keeping nothing of yourself and totally taking over each other but now I am not so sure. Hope this isn't muddled to read, tc Mary Jane