It sounds to me you are being "normal"-- in that you are protecting yourself from hurt that, by what you have said -- is bound to reoccur. If that person that hurt you continues to do so-- then it is only "normal" to treat them as a threat-- IMO. I think you are wise to want to cut a person that has hurt you out of your life.

I can relate to the yelling triggering you-- it does that to me too My stomach gets all in knots when Im even around a heated disagreement.

mandy