I have just seen this thread and skimmed over it. So I am only responding to Tishie's last post.

I have recently met a woman who talks and talks and talks. She triggers me to the point where my neck starts to spasm and am stuck looking at the floor.
She has just joined a mental health committee that has been started. Last meeting I had to leave the room. For my own peace of mind and safety I need to resign from this committee.

Mental illness aside.......... we cant all be friends with everybody.

Tishie some boundaries may need to be put in place to keep you safe.