Please listen to your gut feelings and take things slowly if you are meant to be togehter it will happen. When we first meet someone its all excitement its only when we really get to know each. I'd say that its a red flag when a man comes along and starts to talk about a future and making plans they usually dont mean what they saw they like the excitement of it all then they cool off. And it usually vunerable females that the pick to do this too somehow they seem able to pick us out and when we begin to trust them and believe them we end up hurt. This is just my opinion miracles do happen but from experience and from speaking to other females when a guy comes on like that its a pattern with him. I commend you for having the courage to even being with someone I am so afraid now that although I have a few male friends I never date anymore. Anyone ask me out or seem interested in me I thank them for the compliment but say I am not interested. If they are pesistant I make it plain to them that although I wouldnt mind speaking to them or going out sometime its only as a friend I am not interested in anything intimate. Good luck.