How did you end up here Belle? I just found this thread, it is from before I joined and was bumped... To me it is obvious that you weren't right for each other. Look back at what Sanity was saying on page 3 about you keeping your power. That is some very wise and deep stuff, but it is very true. I think that you were too worried about if you were making him happy and and trying to keep him around even though you felt it wasn't right that you forgot about keeping you happy. It becomes a very lopsided (and unhappy on both ends) when one person has all the "power" as Sanity put it. She was right that most (good) men want a woman with her own opinions, who knows and loves herself (not narcissistic), and who isn't afraid to let them know how they feel and what they think. That is how it is for me at least. I have told my girlfriend that I never want her to be "seen and not heard" and that I love to know her opinions and thoughts of everything and every decision that we make... You are a wonderful woman, who I am sure would be an amazing partner in life, we all can see that here, you just have to find and believe that for yourself.... I hope that you can see that soon....
P.S. I added attachments... I hope they work.... (^_^)
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