Well, the session went well. I realized that the therapist might just understand more than I thought - I think he understands that what my husband says to me is indeed abusive to me - but not as one understands regular out and out abuse (don't know if it makes sense).

So - first the therapist talked to me - mostly because he wanted to clear up some issues with me (and we did) and also because I came in rather p.o.'ed at something entirely different. I don't know if I am "easy" or if he's really good - because he settled me down in about 2 minutes!

Then we proceeded on to my husband. I believe the idea my therapist has is that my husband can be "taught" to deal with me in a good manner - and maybe in the meantime he might start to get a handle on some of his issues, don't know.

Oh - and what I had hoped for did happen - my husband mouthed off just as he does to me! yay! The therapist heard it and understood some of what I'm putting up with. That alone, is helpful.

But what my therapist did was to talk to me from time to time to "demonstrate" to my husband "how" to speak to me in a good manner. And this was effective - at least for now.

So - we will see how it goes, but right now, things are good. I want to give my husband a chance and see how far he can take his own therapy - and in the meantime, therapy is improving a lot for me too.

I do however, keep a bag packed at all times and make sure I have car keys and transportation. That may sound awful, but that's how it is.

So for today - things are good. My anxiety is even lowered. I feel good. And I think its just "day by day" for now. I'll cross other roads if I have to come to them.