Well it has been a while. Since I first posted this. I really need to vent a little and you all were very helpful before.
The bad news is that in my sweethearts own word after months of trying to deal with her panic emotions, she feels as if she has gotten no where. She loves me so much and wants to marry me but her panic is off the scale.

The good news is that she has followed my suggestion in making and appointment with a counselor. She has done this by herself and has not given up even though I am 1500 miles away. To me that says something about her and the relationship.

Sadly she is so dicouraged that even though she is going to counselor within days now, she feels as though she is a lost cause. She said she loves me so much, she feels she should let me go. I have patiently and lovingly encouraged her to just relax and lets see how the counseling might help. Perhaps she will gain a new prospective in the next few months. That is my hope. Counseling helped me in this way after my divorce. I guess I am just writing to see what all of you have to share and to vent. Have any of you had experence with this? The counselor I talked to said she could help her with this and to tell her not to give up. I hope she is right. I am commited to her and will stand by her for the long haul, but I really hope she can regain at least some hope. Maybe if she starts to feel a little benefit from the counseling, perhaps feeling more in power of her emotions, she will begin to have more hope of over coming this to the point of being able to better prospective of our relationship. UGH!! I am just going on and on here. UGH!! Anyone have any thoughts??????
Thanks for letting me vent at least
Love doesn't come easy, not of value comes easy