Hi Wantabenormal,

When I feel depressed, down, tired, unwell I still *try* and push through to get the stuff around the house done; laundry, dishes, vacuuming etc. But I am very sensitive to having this kind of stuff be taken for granted. This is work. To do it on top of coping with depression (and a cold) is more than admirable. It does seem like a difficult situation where you might be left feeling that you had done something wrong - while you yourself are suffering. This is just a guess?
As for your husband, I know there is no right way to react to a family member suffering from an illness. But why does he feel the need to "run?" It doesn't seem fair. Is he scared? Overwhelmed? Have you had the opportunity to discuss it? It seems like an area where a couples therapist could be of some aid.

Sending warm wishes your way...

E