Hello To make a long story short, I was going out with "Becky" for a 1 year. We loved each other so much (had some problems but who doesn't?). It was a great relationship. We promised each other over and over we'd get married (we are both kinda sensitive and need those reinforcements). However, in the past month she had TONS of trust issues stemming from a relationship in the past where the guy cheated on her. I am a great boyfriend and was always nice to her and more than trustworthy. When she has these problems she feels like she can't even talk to me so she decided to break up with me to "save me from herself." I begrudgingly agreed and convinced her to see a therapist and she's now getting help. We still talk as friends but her therapist felt it was set her back if she kept talking to me in the short term. Long term she said once she's better she'd contact me. Okay. So a week goes by, she calls and tells me she went out with "Paula" that night. I don't like Paula because she's a TERRIBLE influence and loves to pick up random guys. Becky promised not to hang out with Paula because she realizes she's a bad influence (Paula just broke up with her boyfriend and I know she'll be on the rebound trying to get guys). Not that I have a right to tell Becky what to do because we aren't going out but still, I know it would hurt me if I knew she's going out drinking with Paula. So she promised not to do it again. Tonight, a week later, I see on facebook that she's going out for drinks with Paula. She's staying over and I know they'll both be out drinking until 2 AM. This just hurts. I know Paula will attract guys and while Becky is a very good girl, she's single, she's going to be drunk, she's going to get hit on. I just am very upset she's doing this after promising. My rationale is if she promises not to see Paula (I'm not a controlling person whatsoever, Paula is practically the devil though) and she lies about that, who is to say she's not going to hook up with another guy. Yes, I'm playing out mental images in my head but this just hurts too much.