Thank you for taking the time to read and reply, I appreciate that.
As far as a doctor that is where I hit a brick wall as she thinks everybody else is wrong and if everyone treated her properly she wouldn't be stressed and life would be perfect.
I am trying to read up on BPD but now will go to Narcissism. I want to know from reading how I can deal with it and how to avoid confrontation that seems to arise from nothing. If I keep quiet I am accused of not caring, but sometimes she will ask for my help and when I tell her what I think I would do in her situation she takes it as critism. On her own admission she can't take critism.

Thank you again