at the end of it all, she's single, you dont really have any right to be telling her who she can (and can't!) hang around with. you never really did even when youw ere tgeother.

you say you're not controlling - sure sounds like it to me! You might mean it in the best possible way but that's just not how it came across.

let her live her life how she wants to! we all have to make the mistakes some time!