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Originally Posted by ACanthony
What do you guys think I should do? I understand "move on." But keep in mind she's also my friend. Do I not talk to her at all? Talk to her like once a week? Do I completely remove her from my life? I honestly think I want to still be friends with her but it may do more harm than good. What do you think is the best course of action?
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You are ruminating and obsessing. In my experience, my ruminations have never changed the outcome of any situation. You are
powerless over "Becky's" choices and actions. Work on exercises (with or without a therapist) that will help you to keep the focus on
you and your life.
Are you satisfied with your life? Do you have good relationships with a variety of people? Do you have a job that gives you satisfaction? How about hobbies? Do you derive joy from any hobbies? Do you like your own company? If our joy in life is only derived from a relationship then it increases the likelihood that we will feel like we cannot live or be happy when a relationship comes to an end.
Your obsession is self-imposed and will only cause you continued suffering.
The choice is up to you - continue to obsess and remain miserable or accept the fact that you could be greatly helped in all aspects of your life by learning some new coping skills. All the best, Laurie
