well i have my challenges with anger sometimes. a lot of my coping skills are a result of therapy:
like, how important is this?
think before i speak (blow) 
am i angry at the other person or at myself?.. when conflict arises.
is fear really what i am feeling, rather than anger?
when all else fails and i start in, i try to catch myself and say to the other person...i take that back!  it works!!!
it sounds like your situation with your mom is that she may not validate your feelings. try validating her's and see if that helps. it's like reverse psychology.
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Last edited by madisgram; Sep 26, 2010 at 02:56 PM.
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