Hello ((((((((JustAPixie))))))))

Savants' post is just about perfect. My partner have the same thing, if I have a bad day I just say "Arms please?" and he will stop what he is doing and hugs me until I feel ok. He knows how that makes a difference to me but it is my responsibility to ask him for that hug, he's not always a mind reader.

If I need help I am very specific in what I say and how I say it. Because it is MY responsibility to be aware of how I communicate and what I communicate (though I'm not responsible for how it is received, I do my best to be clear when I'm in need).

It seems as if your husband does simply does not have any answers and does not know what to do to help you; he is possibly turning away because he can't stand to see your face crying and rarely smiling. That is an issue most depressives have and people don't like being confronted by scowly or sad faces.

If it were me in your situation I would get not just couples counselling but a therapist for your mental health issues. We too have a responsibility to ourselves and not to just pin everything on someone else to do for us.

Take care and keep us up to date on how you go....Best of luck