I agree with the above. It took a LONG time to be able to just say what I want. Seems like we always want that romantic comedy where the guy always knows exactly what to say and do and can read our minds....but that doesn't happen.

I have had to learn that it's okay to say "will you just shut up and hold me please?" And I know he appreciates that much more and has learned what I want WITHOUT me having to say it. The other day all I wanted was a little seriousness and some reassurance. Maybe tell me how awesome he thinks I am lol. But he was just joking around. And I didn't even have to tell him this time. He just kinda figured it out. It was amazing!

While that is really mean I do understand being frustrated with the 'guessing'. Sometimes we feel like we have tried so many different ways of dealing with things and we get to this point where it's like "dude just suck it up". I admit I have done that with my bf when he has been upset about something and I try several different approaches and none work I just kinda snap. I agree with being forward, direct. But also make it clear that you do not deserve to be talked to that way.