Thank you for posting! I'm sorry to hear things aren't going so well at the moment. Not easy issues. I don't have my own children but I take care of my niece; I know the issues I've had in caring for her and dealing with friends, parents, and Facebook.

Speaking to a child that way angers me too and to discuss it with the child and not you, is inappropriate. I know there are somethings kids need to work out for themselves, perhaps this is one of those things that they could have handled themselves and she need not have gotten involved in the first place. If not, anything more needing parental involvement, I firmly believe another parent should not address someone's child for these kinds of things, but should be discussed between parents and especially not over facebook?! I can see why you'd be mad and if possible I would talk to her about it, to find out what she was thinking and find a better way to handle such things in the future, such as addressing you.

I haven't gotten to the boy stage yet with my niece. I know it is coming. I know from personal experience how inappropriate young men can be at times. I am woefully unprepared for this scenario with her. I wish wasn't. I know I ignored guys like this. If they became very forward, I was told to ignore them until I couldn't, stay near other people or get to an adult/let a teacher know, and I was also taken to self-defense class to know how to defend myself just in case; also helped build self-esteem. Was worth it, more than I can say. I will probably do the same with my niece.

I will be thinking of your dilemma. I just wish I actually could help. Thank you again for posting b/c I will definitely be watching for other's responses.