According to McCullough et al. (1997) . . .

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Three changes in motivations are thought to occur when someone forgives an offender:

1. An increase in motivation to act in ways that benefit the offender or the relationship with the offender.

2. A decrease in motivation to take revenge on the offender.

3. A decrease in motivation to avoid the offender.

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After reading these motivations for forgiveness, I've decided I don't think forgiveness is appropriate for me, towards my offenders (parents).

I've tried thinking of other motivations to forgive. But, those three listed above just about covers everything.

poohey