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But in some cases, forgiveness isn't about the relationship at all, it is about the hurt person being able to move on with their life. And in those cases, "forgiveness" isn't always the best route, it might just be "closure" or trying to "forget but not forgive" (and by "forget" I mean no longer be obsessed with the hurtful behavior... I wouldn't expect one to ever truly forget).

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Agreed 100%.

If someone is truly deserving of forgiveness - as in they have made amends and efforts to acknowledge their wrongdoings, then I can forgive.I cannot forgive thinking it'll simply make ME feel better. I agree with dexter on point no.2. It's about the past hurt and pain no longer being as "relevant" in your life. Suppressing the past would be an awful idea.