I'm beginning to think that all of these problems will take care of themselves if we can just cut some of the stress in our lives. Stress from our neighbor is making me feel weak and incapable, and my husband's job is stressing him out, making him angry and jumpy.

However, I can see the validity of your suggestion. Unfortunately, hubby just won't cooperate with that sort of planning. He says if he isn't getting paid to be that organized, then why should he do it? It seems obvious to me that being organized would help us to stop arguing about things, but he doesn't agree.