I am not sure if i am in the right forum for this, but since it pertains to "self parts," the Dissociative Disorders forum seems closest.

I grew up with a mother who was very avoidant and in denial about my problems and a dad who was very critical and shaming of my feelings. It seems that i have internalized both of my parents to the degree that, whenever i allow the scared, hurt part of myself to come out in therapy-- to express any childish pain or fears, or get any comfort -- the parent parts of me act immediately to make me feel deeply ashamed and wrong for sharing my feelings. It has gotten to the point where i can't make progress in therapy because parts of me will shame and "undo" the healing things that happen for other parts of me.

I don't know how to get past this. I feel like I'm wasting my t's time because something inside me prevents me from either letting myp ain out or letting the comfort in.