I agree with what everyone is saying as well. No one should ever tell you to just get over it. You will never forget, but moving on does not mean forgetting the child you lost. Moving on means that you will always keep a special place in your heart for your child but that you must attend to those that are living now. You must take care of yourself and your family, if you are dealing with overwhelming depression, then you must take care of this. My mom miscarried and her marriage to my step-dad fell apart after that because of the blame and their inability to talk about and deal with what happened. Don't let the loss tear you or your family apart. My husband lost his dad 4 years ago and I lost my mom 4 months ago and even though I show my emotions and talk about my mom often, he only talks about his dad once in a while and doesn't show his emotions as willingly. We all have different ways of dealing with loss. The loss of a child is one of the most tragic events in our lives but we must carry on for those that are still here and need us.