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(JD) · Sep 27, 2010, 05:04 PM

My mother passed May 09 ... I was a health care surrogate for her, and her attorney-in-fact. It took quite a battle because a sister, not in mom's will/trust, caused problems. On the anniversary of Pop's birthday (also close to his death day and mom's as well) I visited the grave and found that mom's name was no where to be found. I sent siblings a photo asking what's wrong with this picture. That was first week of July. NOW I've received a response from one of them, saying what?

Ok so now they have taken the ball to get mom's name on the site plate. Nope, funeral home won't speak to them because the sister NOT in the trust owns the plot and signed the contract. Not so. I suggest the one brother contact my other sister who brought the sister NOT in the trust into the mix, and since she has a copy of the trustee assignments, to have her fax it to them. Brother responds with let's not place blame.

Ok... but other sister does NOT own the plot, the TRUST does, and sis and I are trustees (with me being first attorney in fact.)

Will it never end? I kept my joint account with mom open just in case something rears it's head. It's bad enough that I lost that P O Box that is listed as my contact address on the attorney in fact notice, and have a different one now.

I was in a pain flare before this ... so difficult to get my mind off this garbage. I loved mom, but she might not have her name on the grave for a long time!