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Old Sep 27, 2010, 05:20 PM
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i was extremely large busted... like seriously. i had a reduction done and for me, it was the best choice and i have ZERO regrets. i was disproportionate and it was causing issues that would have worsened over my lifetime.

but.. i will tell you that i do regret how bad i felt about myself and my body before and after. i do wish that years of being targeted for sexually explicit comments and jokes had nothing to do with the decision. i wish i'd been able to like myself no matter what... but in the end, the surgery was a healthy decision for other reasons.

If you could go out today and have those puppies made into what you feel is the ideal for you - would you be happy? My money is on no. We fixate on perceived imperfections and attribute them with far more than is reasonable. Your breasts don't make you unhappy and they don't make you attractive or unattractive - your brain does both.

women who feel good about themselves are beautiful - period. They shine and everyone sees that. People will say oh it's because she has such a pretty face or this or that... BS. i worked in plus size retail for a while and the women who looked good came in all sizes and shapes - because their self-acceptance shone through.

many men will say the same... that a women who accepts herself and feels beautiful has an energy that is attractive

now.. having said all that... i had a reduction that i am very happy with. There are other things i will have done when i can afford it, but not because i hate part of me, but because i want to be healthy and i don't have the ability to get there through pure effort.

An enhancement surgery is extremely painful and expensive and unless you feel good about yourself before the surgery then you probably won't afterwards either because your breasts get altered and not your brain.

ask yourself some questions... like, what is it you think that you would think/feel/be if you did have the body you believe you want? What would be different about your life? What would be different about how you see yourself? What does being small or big breasted mean to you other than clothing size?

you're attaching some meaning to the idea beyond the physical... telling yourself in some way or other that being of a certain breast size or body shape is somehow not as good. Figure those things out and you may find a better way to alter how you see yourself.
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